In my opinion parenting for any of us is a tricky thing. There are so many expectations; who do you please – your children, your parents or do you follow your own instincts, but then when you add your important cultural values, it can be a confusing time; emotionally draining , I’m sure. I found your book thoroughly captivating. I have friends who are struggling at the moment with raising their young family, the mother is Vietnamese and the dad an Australian. I will definitely recommend your book to be on their ‘must read’ books. Very insightful. Thank you for allowing us into your families lives.
Thank you Lay Ean Eng. I wish you had written your book when I went through my own cultural shock in bringing my young family to Australia in the early 1980s. I had absolutely nothing to guide me through the major life changes that I faced whilst my Australian husband went to work. I struggled with the language, the huge and vast difference of my geographical distance from a tiny little island in the South Pacific to a big city like Sydney was a life changing experience for me. In bringing my children up I was faced with conflicting values and beliefs of how I was brought up to the ongoing battle of trying to impose those values to my 3 teenage children as they became more and more able to see the big gap in what I was saying and telling them based on what I knew of my strict Catholic upbringing and in what the other teenagers were able to do. Peer pressure was such strong force. I too was not allowed to be out after dark not even to see a move unless I was chaperoned by older and trusted relative. My children rebelled against everything I told them which caused a lot of headaches in those early years. I love how you unpacked those challenges and your ability to pass on your learning into practical easy to follow steps for families with different cultural backgrounds coming into Australia with children having to live in a more liberated society than our own strict and conservative upbringing. Such great work in allowing us to understand and embrace our new way of life and adapt to it without any quilt or fear of being disrespectful towards our own wise and elderly parents and grandparents.
Thanks for writing this book with such authenticity and love Lay Ean. As a migrant parent to Australia myself, I can totally relate to the challenges you faced. This book does not just offer practical how-tos to help appreciate others' beliefs and values and to incorporate this into effective parenting and journeying with your kids, but I found it incredibly inspiring as well. It offers the promise of strengthening one's self-awareness, personal joy and fulfilment and strengthening that most valuable of assets, one's relationship with those you care most about. Parents (or parents to be) bringing up kids in a new culture and particularly those from more conservative cultures to another that is more open and empowering will particularly enjoy this but I believe these same principles can be used to strengthen bonds and relationships with any other person in your life. Thanks again!
I like that it is easy reading as author shares an honest account of her journey in finding self-awareness in the midst of new life and bringing up kids in a new country. I can relate to it very much.
Highly recommended for new migrants and parents alike as it provides insight into trials & tribulations of maintaining a family and raising kids in different culture and environment. It would further help the locals in the new adopted country to under the new immigrants.
Rating was given for overall good concise writing; interesting and informative read.
Parenting can be overwhelming and in the age of social media we often forget how significant the simple things are. This book promotes deeper connection and unity within the family unit and provides profound insight into the family. It’s a great read.
What a great resource for all parents, but especially for those who are trying to raise children in a new culture. Parenting can be challenging at the best of times but even more so in such cases. You will definitely get value out of this book.
A very brave account of the authors emotional challenges and accomplishments. I love the way they openly discuss how they had to make changes. Study and learn more to realise that the parent is as important as the child. The child's behaviour is a reflection of the parenting. Thank you.