We all must accept our part in contributing to the death of Princess Diana. Diana herself who used reporters in her endless attack on her husband and the royal family. Everyone of us who continued to purchase papers and magazines with the sandals of her life. And of course the reporters, publishers and others who could not walk away from the huge amounts of money to be made. Marrying into the royal family enabled Diana to facilitate the work of her charities and much need changes in attitude of society. We should not forget that the real work was achieved by her staff and the staff of these charities. Prince Charles had been doing his charity work more diligently with little acknowledgment. Diana had tirelessly plotted to win the heart of the man she thought she loved. No matter how sad the reality of her marriage she had other choices for the path of her life. She choose revenge with little regard for the effect this would have on the sons she continually reminded us where the most important part of her life. A good mother does not use her children as bit players in a battle of divorce. Diana could have been a woman of substance and used her role as the Princes of Wales to continue her good work. Charles made a terrible mistake in marrying her and paid a terrible price. Should he have done things differently? Yes, but they where both trapped in this marriage from hell. The Queen has been harshly judged in this instance concerning her behaviour after Diana's death. How could any mother in law react to a daughter in law so obviously intent on destroying her family and their life's work. No one in this sad tale was able to find a way forward. However it was Diana nature of vindictiveness that set them all on a path of destruction. Diana was an ordinary girl who was given an extraordinary chance to make a difference. She was not the first woman who thought herself wronged nor the first woman who felt she had married into the family from hell. Her reaction to her plight is what she will be judged on as a woman.