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The author Valerie Silveira basically put her soul on the plate in this book. She tells her heart-wrenching story about the loss of her only daughter to drugs. Luckily she found ways to battle her so called "beast" - living with not-knowing what is happening with her child but knowing that she is a drug addict.
This is not a fictional story, this is a real life story happening in the US that could happen to any family in the world. "Still Standing After All the Tears" is well written and feels like Valerie is talking to you through the book.
After telling her story of what happened from the happy, well protected child to the silent, conceiled drug addict the book takes a turn. Take a turn to encourage people to take their own turn in life. Nine very important and powerful tips are described with very accurate examples from real life. These tips will inspire you!
This is a must read for anyone, really, who wants to take control of their life and deal with difficult situations everyday. I cannot imagine how super-powerful this book is for anyone conflicted with drugs.
If I could give more than 5 stars - I would. Absolutly love the book. Just ordered the workbook - exited to see what it brings to the table!
At long last, a book that truly comes across as a true reflection of a distressed, but amazingly powerful, determined human being.
In my personal quest of fighting my very own Beast, I have come across (and wasted my money) too many 'motivational' books -books that quote famous out of the average person's league on how to be successful, famous, adorable; some others basically tell you how to advance in life by cutting your co-workers throats. Those are the kind of literature that in most cases has convinced me not to be successful, but, instead, to lobby for a law that forbids publishers to print whatever 'you can do it-it's so easy-if Bill Gates/Steve Jobs could, so can you' rubbish, accompanied by ready-made phrases and fad quotations.
I for one have literally wasted my money in the vast number of books I have purchased on the subject, on my very own attempt to make sense of my very own struggle with adversity, spiritual and physical exhaustion... Only to wish there were a return policy on the basis of the aforementioned books being what I'd politely describe as a whole pile of bull... manure.
Valerie Silveira speaks out without fear nor favour of her heart-crushing experience -one that many a person, including myself, has had to go through.
It is obvious to me she does not write with any other motivation except that of wholeheartedly share her story with the honest aim of letting -assuring- her readers to know, we are not alone in our ordeals -that someone else has been to hell and back; that they have triumphed over their own Beast and lived: just as she assures us, we will too.
One one detail I was not so convinced about is the self-quoting -but I am guessing this observation should address the editor, not the author.
An excellent story, and a great source of encouragement, to let us know we are not alone and that there is, indeed, hope after all.
I highly recommend Still Standing for anyone and everyone! At first it is a heart breaking, heart wrenching story about a perfectly happy daughter gone to heroin and gang violence. Imagine, as a parent, doing the very best for your kids, life seemingly pretty darn good and then BAM! everything just goes all wrong! Street drugs, heroin in particular, have become rampant across the country. I personally have 4 friends who have "lost" their children to this horrific drug who battle daily. They, like Valerie, try to help/fix/save their addict children, while still parenting their other children all while trying desperately to live a life of some kind of "normalcy" (like getting dressed, going to work, talking to people). The book moves into hope and actual steps to take to get your life back, even though the struggles may continue. You don't have to be a parent of an addict to get something out of this book. We all have struggles, Beasts as Valerie says, and this book has action steps, not fluff but to the point steps that teach us how to deal with it all. And not just cope but pick ourselves up off the floor, out of the puddle we've been mired in, get out of shame, guilt & despair, and actually live the beautiful life we are here to have. The author is using this tragedy and sharing her story to help others...so courageous. I'm definitely buying copies for my friends who are suffering.
This book was very relatable in the way that we have a family member (current and past) that have been through the same situation. I bought this book for my mom after she mentioned How she had been following the authors story on social media and what not. I plan on reading it as soon as she is done. While she was reading it she was in tears several times throughout and I knew it was because she was relating to our own personal situation. When she was done she said the book was very empowering in the way that she felt like she could take a better approach and understanding to our family and she could relate in so many ways that it really struck home. She is very happy she read it and plans on buying more like it. I look forward to reading it for the same reasons and also for the reason of the addiction epidemic in my area. So many people are losing the battle to addiction and books like these would help families in being able to help before it's too late. Hindsight is always 20/20. Love the Author. Our hearts break for her and we want to thank her for having the courage to write this book despite the immense grief she must be going through. Past, present and future. There is nothing sadder in this world than a parent losing their child, and Especially when it could have been a different outcome.
This author is such an inspiration! I absolutely loved it! My addict daughter forwarded me a link to the news article announcing Valerie's daughter's tragic murder, and a link to Valerie's Facebook group. My daughter and Valerie's daughter were roommates in rehab for a short time. Unfortunately, they both made the decision to walk out the door (again, and again). Both, very beautiful girls! I finally ordered this book, and I'm so glad that I did! This author is a survivor. She has been to Hell and back, and this is a very intelligently written guidebook for others struggling with a variety of situations such as this. I love her advice, her positive attitude, and her encouragement. She really helps others to learn where to place their focus and how to regain a beautiful, fulfilled life despite the seemingly never-ending tragedies that we have been dealt to face. No matter where you are in your situation at this time, I highly recommend this read. It helped me to feel better right away, and I will continue to use her steps for healing my entire life.
I just finished reading Still Standing After all the Tears. I would highly recommend this book to anyone (especially mothers) who are coping with the devastation of their child's addiction. When I discovered the book, I was at a point where I couldn't make sense of my pain but Valerie Silveira brings her personal story to the table and offers not only love and encouragement but practical advice on how to get through the difficulties involved with the pain of a chlld's addiction. I also bought the workbook which accompanies the book and am planning on completing it as well. You will do yourself a favor if you decide to purchase and read this valuable resource.
Well written account of living with an addict. Many thought provoking points raised that are valuable for anyone. Valerie uses her own heart wrenching & devastating story to help others and provide insight into the key steps in breaking away from your 'beast' by using the experiences of life. This is a book that I will pass along to several people in hopes that they too, will find these steps useful in creating a more balanced and purposeful life without the pain & darkness that follows addiction in any family.
I have never reviewed a book before, but believe it important to share a few thoughts. Having spent time on a similar "roller coaster", I very much appreciate Valerie putting into words and then publishing this book. It is a wonderful, insightful guide to parenting that should give hope to any situation. Valerie has and continues to have an extremely bumpy road. I'm impressed that she has been able to categorize the experience in the way she did. I found it helpful and reassuring. We all have our "beasts" to deal with. This book gives excellent step by step suggestions.
Still Standing After All The Tears is a wonderful book that I highly recommend everyone read. Although the "Beast" in my life is not addiction, it still very much exists. It was extremely easy to relate to this book from the very beginning. It clearly provides the reader with actionable steps to live in the present, and to accept the things that cannot be changed. I want to personally thank the author Valerie Silveira for giving my internal angst a name, and allowing me to battle it as a separate identity. It has really helped me.