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Shame is a subject very close to my heart and is an ongoing journey for me. We all experience this strong emotion and it should be discussed more openly. How shame and co-dependency work together was truly insightful. A great read.
So helpful, so practical. The clear analysis and examples of the myriad of dysfunctional dialogues + behaviours you have experienced and participated in, turn your mind from obsessing over the 'whys', to honestly seeing and understanding the patterns + triggers. You can then begin empathising with yourself and a new mindfulness begins to grow once you start dealing with the work you need to do in the exercises. I found this a true comfort and calm relief from the labyrinth of rumination and helped me to really get an almost immediate grip on my own despair and the resentment I held for my partner. I guess Im at the point where Im ready to risk deep change to heal and grow. Im so thankful I found this.
The author knows her subject comprehensively and this is one of the best books I have read on shame. She lays it out like a scientist and knows every nook and cranny on her subject matter. Excellent read with doable steps to tackle the problem
This book is incredibly helpful and eye-opening to anyone who wants to heal their co-dependency. It's written with illuminating clarity and a solid structure which makes it easy to follow, despite the painful nature of the topic. The strategies and exercises included are simple yet profoundly effective. What stands out whilst reading this book is that it's written to maximise the healing benefit of the reader. Darlene is clearly an expert in this field, has a profound understanding of co-dependency and focuses on the practical aspects of the recovery. What makes this book even more effective is the fact that she conveys her knowledge with plenty of kindness and compassion. I highly recommend this book to anyone who wishes to gain a better understanding of co-dependency and heal their emotional wounds and relationships. This book is one of the best books on this topic out there and Darlene is one of the best authors in this field.
I think everybody should read this book for a better self and a better world. There are probably more books on shame and codependency out there, but i read this one and it was enough to break the bad patterns i was following in my relationships and change my life. I had bad relationship, and I didnt feel confortable in them and I didnt even know it. I consider yourself a good person, but I was either a victim or an abuser, I had to admit firstly that I had a bad childhood and understand how that affects my adulthood. If you want to change the world change yourself and your behaviour, make healty boundaries, read this book, nurture your inner child and look after your well being. Peace.
This book explains so much with such clarity that I have not been able to access elsewhere. She goes to another level and in such a readable format. Better than the counselling I tried and cheaper. Haven’t read it all yet but now understand so much more about myself, my relationships and the early life experience which has unconsciously shaped me. I am at last starting to have more self compassion.
This book offers both clarity and depth, Darlene has a very human(e) and direct writing style which helps to digest a subject that can be 'difficult reading'. This is a fabulously practical and insightful book for both personal and professional development, I have found benefit in both areas of my life. This book has supported me in working on my own shame and codependency and more generally in developing healthier relationships.
Very well written book. It holds the readers hand, and takes them safely through an area which is very difficult to discuss and bring into consciousness. I thoroughly recommend this book to therapists, but more so for vulnerable patients, as it is very gentle, and readers can go at their own pace.