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so many thoughts on this book I'm not sure I can express them all w\o either alienating the author or sharing properly my personal thoughts. I too experienced the suffering of which you speak, except my experience ended in death. The suffering on both our parts, mine and my daughter went on for 20 years. She had been abused, yes, the worst kind, but I was unaware for years until she told me. So, was any of our experiences attributed to God or blamed on his negligence.
I too, spent my time, my heart and my every thought and prayer, at first, on our situation, money, that too. More time, money and heartbreak than one could measure. I'm glad your situation turned out well, I don't for a moment believe that God had much to do with the outcome. All the platitudes in life can't make what's wrong, right. I believe you were able to write this from a standpoint of how well things turned out. What if it hadn't, think you'd feel the same way or say, well God took her, or whatever. No, I'm not bitter or jealous. Maybe your faith helped you and would have either way. Good. Not the same for me and not due to lack of faith.
I agree with most of your informational contribution, just seems like "glory be to god" was a little too much, at least for me. Too much to express in this forum. It was very hard for me to identify with, considering every person reading this, including, especially me, might find all is not comparable. But then, life isn't.
I've read a number of memoirs on addiction and Barbara's is one of the best. Being the parent of a daughter who has struggled with substance use, I could relate to most aspects of the story and how heartbreaking it is to watch a daughter self-destruct. Barbara sheds the light on how addiction has quietly crept into every community in America and has put our children at risk. The story is well written and comes from the heart.
To learn more about how addiction can affect a family, or for those families who are experiencing addiction with their children, this is a must read. The book will help you have more understanding and feel less alone. The story shares hope for recovery and will remind the reader that you are not alone.
The author writes her story that portrays exactly what it is like to parent someone who has become addicted to street drugs. She tells it all and does not hold back the things that may show herself in a bad light. The story line is as much about the mother's evolution and growth during the process, and it is touching and inspirational. She shares evidence based information on addiction and recovery and I learned a great deal about these topics. Many scenes and conversation could have been taken straight from my family's experience with my daughter's addiction. It is a beautiful journal of love and personal growth that can only happen when your family is challenged by this heartless brain disease. Anyone experiencing addiction in your family, or anyone interested in personal growth through hardship, will enjoy and benefit from this book.
I've just finished reading a Very Fine House, reliving the years I spent in such a house with my daughter. If you've loved and anguished over a beloved child's struggle with abuse and addiction, you've lived in such a house. This house was built with love, then rocked to its foundation and shaken so mightily it's a wonder a foundation was left on which to rebuild. This is Stoefen's gift to readers, the reality that what seems lost can be recovered. Stoefen enjoyed an unusually close relationship with her daughter Annie, who shared everything with her mother until the day she stopped sharing. The signs were subtle at first, small emotional and psychological issues that gradually transformed a beautiful child into an insecure and uncertain young woman. While many of us saw this happen to our own children at a much younger age, Annie's descent into full-blown meth addiction until she'd reached college age. Like most of us, we struggled mightily to rescue our children from the darkness we saw engulfing them -- desperate fight we are bound to lose if we think it is up to us to save them. Beaten down by the rapid disintegration of her daughter's life, Stoefen was forced to let go until Annie turned to her for help. While I'm filled with admiration for Stoefen's wonderful narrative, for the expensive treatment program she managed to obtain for Annie in lieu of jail time, and for her supportive love of Annie as she fought to pull her life back together, it's Annie who made it happen. This young woman's struggle to emerge ached through my heart and fills me with joy.
This is at times a heartbreaking story and yet, one of hope, recovery and finding life. This family had the financial resources for attorneys, a very expensive treatment rehab, air travel frequently and medical professionals. Many of us do not have that at our disposal. It is time ALL who need and seek treatment can get it. Also, the addiction of one child often leaves the healthy child parentless in the sense parents are literally obsessed to save the addicted child from death. I am glad Annie "made it". So many don't. As a family that dealt with addiction, it consumes your life and forever changes the lives of those who loved the person. Although we made it through the addiction,the years of abusing her body had a devastating and damaging effect. At 41 our adopted daughter, mother of 3 that we raised because she could not succumbed to a cardiac arrest in Jan. 2019.
As a long time recovering alcoholic, mother of an addict, and a child of alcoholic parents ( how's that for winning the lottery!) I can say with much personal experience that this is a book that is realistic, helpful and hope filled. It's always good to know you are not alone. Having a child live in addition is one of the most devastating Horrifying experiences I have had. It has beaten me down and changed me on a cellular level! Probably for the better. I love recovery. I appreciate sober living every day. My alcoholism gave me a foundation for living that was missing before I ever told a drink. Thanks to the twelve step programs. Certainly divinely inspired! In the language that touches my heart.
As I read this mother's story, I felt like she had written my words, my story. I am so grateful for her insight and that she and her daughter had the courage to share their story. They helped me understand my own daughter so much more, as well as helped me to deal with my own feelings of hopelessness and frustration and fear, not to mention the guilt I feel for losing my faith. This story has helped me to start putting one foot in front of the other and try to look forward to tomorrow rather than fear what it might bring.
This book about Annie's life through addiction and beyond is very eye opening. I lost a sister to drugs and alcohol. She lived in its grip for over 40+ years. Our family paid the price for her addiction as well. I applaud Barb and Pete for handling the sickness the way they did. I praise God for delivering Annie and Tom from despair. I love that they are using their mistakes to help others. I believe that is our calling in this life. I hope they will remain clean and sober against all odds.