This is an intensely personal book, which is why it is so good. Alan Downs draws on his own experiences as both a gay man and a clinical psychologist to help those who suffer from shame or its consequences.
It's not a book of theory; it provides useful skills to help you break out of shame's stranglehold. As he says in his epilogue: "...my life changes as I practice certain skills I've learned that increase joy in my life....there's no big 'ah-ha' moment, no must-read book, no teacher I must find....love, joy, fulfillment, passion - virtually all the good things in life - come to us because we practice what we know works. The secret of life isn't an idea - it's behavior. You must DO, not just THINK about, what is likely to bring you joy and peace."
Although written primarily for a gay audience, I'd recommend it to anyone.
A must read book for all human beings who choose to know themselves on a deeper level. Though the book is written from a gay perspective, it holds value for all as it speaks about the fundamental emotion that lies under all our 'not good enough' stuff that holds us back and keeps us small and limited.