In this very sane and easy to read book, Susan Forward and Craig Buick lay out various problems with parents and ways to deal with them so as to break the cycle of generational abuse. It’s an excellent roadmap for confronting what’s going on and becoming self-defining. This kind of inner work isn’t for wimps. It takes enormous courage and the authors are clear about the fact that it upsets the apple cart of family dynamics. So much so that many people end up having to minimise their interactions with parents or even disconnect entirely. The payoff is freedom from guilt and shame and more energy to live an authentic life; to give and get genuine, healthy love instead of the counterfeit version you grew up with. It was written quite a while ago, but it’s as relevant as if it came out yesterday. Can’t recommend it enough.
Easy to read, but not dumbed down. As someone dealing with lifelong issues related to a toxic family environment, I found the case studies and non-defensive strategies very useful. As a side note, I recall years ago one of my sisters was given this book by her partner at the time. She became enraged with him and didn't read it. She should've. Highly recommended.
I had to read this book in stages, as the pain I had to deal with was too big to handle all at once. What a revealing end to a journey I could have not started by myself. If you are reading this review, congratulations on getting here, you should be very proud of having the courage to question your toxic parents behaviour. Best of luck!
The content of this book is a tremendous help and it explains why your parents are toxic even though you don't think they are. The only reservation I have is the title of the book because I never thought of my parents as toxic and I may have never read it if it hadn't been specifically recommended to me. It certainly is about reclaiming your own life!