A close friend's digital magazine, "Easy Breezy Way", highlighted Ms. Becky Norwood and her book, "The Woman I Love". Upon reading what the book was about, mental and physical abuse of a woman, I took a chance and decided to buy it.
I'm a 65 year old man who grew up in a very dysfunctional and abusive family. Though the book is small and not a long read, it released over 50 years of anger and sadness. At the same time, I was overcome with a sense of overwhelming forgiveness! My mother was married at the age of 14 years old to my father, who at the time was 36 years old. My, abruelita (grandmother), my mother's mother came with the marriage. By the time she was 21, the family grew by 5 children, me being the second oldest. I grew up being raised by my grandmother who spoke no English and at times, by my mother yearning to be a teenager and trying to learn how to be a mother and a woman at the same time This was a recipe for disaster!
My childhood and my mother's teen(married) years could be described as growing up poor, always in fear of my father's temper, and utter loneliness. We, as children, were disciplined (beaten) with whatever was near-by, be it a belt, iron cord, metal fly swatter or baseball bat. All this was secondary, to what I now realized what my mother was going through with my father. After reading, "The Woman I Love", I knew for a long time that the screams coming from my parents room were not screams of delight and lovemaking, but of terror! It was probably 'marital rape"! I only hope and pray after all the years they were together my mother found some moments of love, caring, and respect.
Reading Becky Norwood's book showed me that my mother was in her own living hell each every day. Living in fear of mental and physical abuse from my father never allowed her to gather enough courage to protect herself let alone her 5 children. This fear culminated in one night where my older brother and I had to pull my father off my mother with a butcher knife in his hands. My dad threw her out of the house but it became a long term relationship like a moth to the burning flame. She came in and out of our lives like a revolving door most of my teen years and my role as the second child became that of the caregiver to the rest of siblings.
Thank you Becky for allowing me to feel what you personally went through with your father, which in turn allowed me to feel what my mother possibly felt in her own "hell". My mother has since left this world and I forgave her along time ago! I also realized she did the best she knew how being a mother and a wife at a innocent age of 14! Which all any of us can do!
Your book is a must read for both women and men! I'm a better man for reading, "The Woman I Love"!
- Format: Kindle Edition
- File Size: 1577 KB
- Print Length: 150 pages
- Simultaneous Device Usage: Unlimited
- Publisher: MBK Enterprises, LLC (12 August 2016)
- Sold by: Amazon Australia Services, Inc.
- Language: English
- ASIN: B01KECDALY
- Text-to-Speech: Enabled
- Word Wise: Enabled
- Customer Reviews: 11 customer ratings
- Amazon Bestsellers Rank: #1,668,824 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)