This book really impacted me in ways I didn't think it could. My husband is overweight and I am constantly getting comments from both sides of the family about "what if" his health caused an early demise. I actually felt relieved when she said her husband died in his mid 50s because in our early 30s, that still sounds like a long way away. Yet, it does cause a twinge of fear. I don't know what I would do if I because a widow. Her insecurities about dating again seemed to mirror the thoughts I have if I was ever put into that kind of situation.
Then, little comments made me realize that we share similar religious beliefs and that created a strong bond instantly. Her experiences took on a new light. It made me realize that sometimes I think I can hide behind my faith and assume really bad things can't happen to me. Her experience opened my eyes more to realize that faith gives us strength to overcome anything, and is not meant to keep us from experiences - whether they be good or bad.
I do have to say, I believe she was scammed twice. The way I read it, her scammer found the errors of his ways and came out to ask forgiveness and that's how she learned the truth. Yet, in my eyes, that was the second part of the scam. By asking for forgiveness, he was able to cleanly end the scam with her and continue on to focus on another person. I know that is very negative thinking, but it was the first thought to come to my mind when I read it and my husband's response to the situation confirmed my feelings. As I described the book to him, I was surprised at the shift in his opinion about the scammer when I mentioned it was a Nigerian. "Oh, scamming is a business in Nigeria. There is no way to get that money back because the executives have already gotten their take from the scam." He told me about his understanding on the Nigerian scamming enterprises. Wow, I hope that this scammer really was helping his family, but I'm afraid that is wishful thinking.
I will admit, this book had me become more fearful of online dating. I cannot believe someone would go through so much effort for so long just to scam. It is very eye opening and I am proud of the author's courage to come out with her story. I just can't comprehend why another human being would behave in such a manner as that scammer did. It's so sad. I will definitely take the author's advice and remember her reflections throughout the book.
I want to recommend this book to anyone and everyone. Not only to those who have online dating accounts, but I think there is wise information in this book that can apply to any type of online social interactions. We truly don't know who we are talking to when we communicate via email, chat, Facebook, Twitter, Youtube, Instagram, Reddit, etc. We should be careful of our emotions and feelings - and our money.
I received a copy of the book from Loving The Book in exchange for an honest review.
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