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Nine Thoughts That Can Change Your Marriage: Because a Great Relationship Doesn't Happen by Accident by [Gregoire, Sheila Wray]
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Is what you believe about marriage getting in the way of a GREAT relationship?

When you’ve put into practice all the usual advice, but your marriage still falls short of the intimacy and joy you want, what then? Are patience and perseverance your only hope for a better relationship?
Author and speaker Sheila Wray Gregoire says, “Absolutely not!” The solution to a happier relationship is not found in being a more patient, more perfect wife, but in taking responsibility for what you can do—and especially for how you think about your marriage. She challenges you to replace pat Christian answers with nine biblical truths that will radically shift your perspective on your husband, your relationship, and your role in God’s design for marriage, including…
·       My Husband Can’t Make Me Mad
·       Being One Is More Important Than Being Right
·       Having Sex Is Not the Same as Making Love
With humor and honesty, Sheila invites you to believe that God wants to bring oneness and intimacy to your marriage—and challenges you to partner with Him in that process by changing the way you think.

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  • Format: Kindle Edition
  • File Size: 872 KB
  • Print Length: 242 pages
  • Publisher: WaterBrook (18 August 2015)
  • Sold by: PRH US
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B00UEL5O1A
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  • Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars 1 customer review
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: #231,642 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
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5.0 out of 5 stars Changing me - changing my marriage! 20 August 2015
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OMGoodness! SO many ah-ha moments for me in this book! Not even finished reading it yet (I'm on Thought #5), and it is already changing my marriage and it will continue to do so also! It's so easy to fall into resentful or bitter thinking - the examples in this book are dead-on and really make you think about how you treat your husband!

I'm reading it on my phone Kindle, which has the ability to "highlight" text.....there isn't much that ISN'T highlighted, LOL! Sheilas' writing is light, sometimes funny, thought provoking and definitely forces some introspection. Funny thing too is that as I read some of this it dawns on me "oh, my husband has been trying to tell me that for a long time"! I'm just not as resistant hearing it from someone else - and she's a better communicator :)

I have to confess that although I'm a Christian, I'm not a heavily participating one, and I was concerned that this book might be a little TOO religious and "do as God says" for me, but as long as you believe in God at all, this book will improve your marriage.
1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Very good 1 April 2017
By Christen - Published on
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Not your typical marriage book, it's real and honest. It's helping my relationship already. I'll read it a few times because there are a lot of action steps suggested in the book & it's easier and feels more natural to implement them little by little. It was really refreshing to get advice that was fair to both parties after hearing so many times that being a good wife basically means being a doormat. So many Christians (male and female) have it twisted. Thanks for clearing that up (and not letting us get away with anything either!) My favorite part of the book, which stuck me the most, was realizing the massive difference between peace keeping and peace making. Memorable stuff.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Love it!!! 31 August 2015
By Michelle Bennett - Published on
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I bought your book on launch day, but I’ve been reading it slowly (which is very hard for me to do). I like to read quickly, but with your book, I’ve wanted to absorb and understand the points you are making. Sometimes reading too fast you can miss things. However, having said that, I find myself devouring the book and saying, “Yes, yes, yes!” We are responsible and capable human beings – God did not make us to be anything but. And I love your understanding of scripture and submission. I have never, ever (and I have a three year diploma in Theology) heard it said like this before. I’ve tried the “keep quiet and let him take the lead” route, and it just didn’t work. It didn’t bring us closer, it just kept things quiet. Now, I’ve decided to rather be who God has made me to be. And allow my husband and I the opportunity to work through issues that allow us to bring us closer together. My husband fell in love with a woman who could articulate what she was thinking and debate on various subjects – now I must keep quiet to let him lead? Just doesn’t make sense.

The best part though – I have to say is where you say that if you’re feeling hormonal or emotional, you and hubby will have supper in front of the TV. We don’t get Netflix here in S.A., but this was freeing for me, because sometimes you just need that bit of “zoning out” while you sort yourself out.

Thank you for an awesome book. Thanking for giving me the tools to empower me to make positive changes for me and for my marriage. There are so many people I know who need to read this!

Love it!!!
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5.0 out of 5 stars BEST marriage book - EVER! 25 March 2016
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BEST marriage book I've ever read, and I've read A LOT!! Without a doubt, Sheila has done her homework on this book. Mostly by living it out herself. This book is easy to read, has excellent review sections and practical ways to put the principles into practice in your own marriage. I wish I had read this book years ago. I've been married 37 years and Sheila has challenged me to love and pray for my husband like none other. I've already given out multiple copies and I intend to continue doing so.
5.0 out of 5 stars Great resource for Christian wives 18 February 2017
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This is a wonderful resource for Christian couples! I plan to give it to my friends and family members as part of their wedding gift. I really enjoy and benefit from Sheila Wray Gregorie's books. A little back information: I am almost 30, have 3 children, and have been married for close to 7 years.

One thing that stuck out to me was when Sheila says, in chapter 7, "But instead of listening to understand [my husband], I was listening for loopholes." I cannot agree enough as I too struggle with this tendency. I will wait to hear my husband use phrases like "you ALWAYS do ________" or "you NEVER do __________" and then try and prove him wrong with whatever "proof" I can come up with, and then like Sheila said, "All I had to do was find an exception and I could leave his argument in the dust!" This is something I've decided just isn't worth it anymore. It does nothing to improve my marriage and does nothing to improve my communication with my husband.

Sheila also provides "action steps" throughout each chapter to help apply whatever 9 thoughts she discusses. For example, she challenges you to identify your unmet needs in your marriage, and then explains how you should discuss these with your spouse (writing them down all at once, with both spouses having the opportunity to identify their unmet needs, and discussing in a kind and loving manner.)

This book was extremely easy to read, and I felt like I was listening to a wise, seasoned wife who was taking the time to discuss these issues with me in a heart-to-heart. There is humor, there is understanding, and there is truth. Too many times I try and talk to a friend about an issue I'm having, and we end up just both complaining about whatever problems we are facing in our marriage. Sheila challenges you to dig deeper instead of just find a gal-pal who can commiserate with you, even if what you're talking to your friend about is as lighthearted as airing frustrating about your husband's inability to throw a wrapper in a trash can instead of leaving it out on the counter. I have found that the more I bring up such lighthearted issues about my marriage with my friends, the more frustration builds up with whatever other issues I'm having in my marriage. So, stop. Closely examine your heart and be open to biblical instruction and advice from a wife who has been there. Sheila is offering her advice in this book for the taking, and i'm so grateful she has!

I have already begun to implement some of the things Sheila recommends. My marriage is improving! But I have to say, if you are not also adjusting your attitude and thoughts in repentance, and dealing with these issues with Jesus, you're not going to get anywhere. Sheila mentions this in her book too, in various ways. If you're not willing to humble yourself and admit you need to work on some things and that it's not JUST your husband that is giving you issues, you won't have any improvement. But if you go into this with a willing heart, and are willing to let your thoughts and attitudes be challenged...this is a great resource to use.