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Lust, Men, and Meth: A Gay Man's Guide to Sex and Recovery by [Fawcett, David M]
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Lust, Men, and Meth: A Gay Man's Guide to Sex and Recovery provides insight for gay men struggling with the issues of sex and recovery, and for the professionals who work with them. The reader is equipped not only with essential information on the problems of drugs and sexuality, but also with solutions in the form of tools and resources that will support him along his path.  The book is unique in its blend of therapeutic perspectives from addiction and sex therapy, from which Dr. Fawcett has integrated the most useful concepts and tools. Additionally, detailed case studies will assist clinicians who, in Dr. Fawcett's many trainings for professionals, have asked for material on substance use, identity, and sexuality in gay-identified men. These insights and tools will be helpful not only in the early stages of sobriety, but for an individual's continuing personal evolution of recovery as well.

The book is divided into three parts to help guide the reader through this multifaceted topic. The first part, “The Perfect Storm,” examines how, through the release of dopamine and other neurotransmitters, methamphetamine has phenomenal power to change one’s mood and entice the user to ingest ever-increasing amounts of the drug.  The role of excitement, risk, and even boredom are explored, along with the vulnerabilities of some gay men who find themselves feeling unattractive, left out, or disconnected and utilize meth to soothe these feelings.  Finally, this part of the book explores the unfortunate intersection of meth, the gay community, and the rise of dangerous health concerns such as HIV/AIDS.

The second part, “Exploring the Sexual Universe,” provides a sex therapist’s perspective on sexual desire and how eroticism develops in the brain, an elaborate world of sexual templates, scripts, and themes that methamphetamine penetrates and distorts.  This section also highlights exciting discoveries of neurobiology and the direct impact of the brain’s plasticity on the profound problem of the fusion of meth and sex.  Dopamine is the central player in the drama of both the feelings produced by drug use and the consequent hijacking of sexual desire.  New discoveries about the brain’s ability to change and adapt in response to compulsive behaviors shed light both on the harmful consequences of drug use and clues about recovery.     

The final part, “Restoring Your Life,” explores the process of recovery from this drug in detail, with chapters on specific skills derived from thousands of hours working with clients, managing of feelings, and rethinking perspectives on sex.  The reader will find that, with increased distance from the drug, such powerful emotions as vulnerability, anxiety, or shame, which once were buried by meth use, now provide direction to promote emotional transformations that ultimately enrich both the sexual and emotional life.  Finally, the reader is guided in rebuilding relationships with himself, his loved ones, and the community as he continues in recovery. 

Gay men and their helping professionals will find the information in these pages illuminating and motivating as they create lives of recovery from addiction as well as fulfilling and joyous sexual expression.

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  • Publisher: Healing Path Press; 1 edition (17 September 2015)
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  • Language: English
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5.0 out of 5 stars A Book the Gay Community Needs 22 January 2016
By Nick Nicholas, MSW - Published on
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This is a very good book, written by an experienced practitioner who has worked with many gay clients as they struggled towards recovery from crystal meth addiction, a drug that has been the scourge of gay communities nationwide since the 1980s. In some respects, however, the title of the book, with a subtitle of A Gay Man's Guide to Sex and Recovery, is misleading. The subtitle provides a clear indication of the intended audience for this text, but I believe it deserves reading by a much broader audience.

I struggled with the first two sections, not because the material was difficult, but because I was trying to determine to just what audience Dr. Fawcett was addressing this book. Sometimes it seemed like a guide for mental health professionals, offering practical advice on helping clients recover from meth addiction. At other times, it was clearly directed at a non-professional audience as he explained terms that would be familiar to any mental health professional. But I was continually impressed with Dr. Fawcett's use of metaphor as a way of making more difficult concepts accessible to an audience that had not been through professional training.

The real "meat" of the book is the third section in which Dr. Fawcett describes in some detail the best practices for helping a client end his/her meth addiction. The first two sections laid a solid foundation for the third. Even though this section does seem more clearly oriented towards the recovering meth addict, a discerning professional will find everything s/he needs in order to incorporate some of these ideas into his/her own practice. I hope Dr. Fawcett's next book will be one more specifically oriented towards mental health and addiction recovery professionals.

Some topics were explained well and thoroughly, such as the discovering worthiness section, while other topics, e.g., codependency, deserved a deeper explanation. There was some repetition, but perhaps Dr. Fawcett was just following the Rule of Three in order to make sure that the concepts were instilled in his readers' brains. I was especially pleased to see the work of Harville Hendrix (Getting the Love You Want; Keeping the Love You Find) cited as well as the triad of victim, persecutor and rescuer described by Diane Zimberoff. Although the writing was sharp and clear, I think he could have benefitted from a better editor. He certainly could have benefitted from a better proofreader or fact-checker: Alfred Kinsey was an ENTOmologist, not an ETYmologist. I'm sure Dr. Fawcett is aware of this fact, and some word processing autocorrect feature decided to change Dr. Kinsey's field of study.

One of my biggest frustrations with the first two sections was the sparse citations. Dr. Fawcett would make an assertion that is clearly beyond the scope of his direct experience, but then he fails to provide a citation. I learned a number of new bits of knowledge, but I don't know their source! If I had turned in one of these chapters as an assignment in grad school, it would have been returned to me with "Cite? Cite?" all over the text. However, because Dr. Fawcett was writing for a more general audience, he made the reasonable and valid assumption that an over-abundance of footnotes would be offputting to the more casual reader. Still, I want those citations, Dr. Fawcett! My pedantic soul cannot rest until I know the source of some of the gems you provided! Yes, I'm one of those readers who actually reads footnotes and bibliographies!

Which leads me back to the question that haunted me as I was reading this book: who is the intended audience? The most obvious target would be either a meth addict ensnared by the drug or one who is just starting recovery. However, I have a hard time imagining that such an audience would be enthusiastic about reading this text. Mental health professionals and substance use counselors certainly would benefit from this book. I think this book would be helpful for the non-addict who has an addict or recovering addict in his/her life. But, even though I'm not a meth addict or a recovering addict, there were numerous points in the book where I smiled in recognition, as, for example, when Dr. Fawcett wrote of "damaged goods" -- a theme with which I have been struggling much of my life, first when finding out I had a hearing impairment at age five, then coming to terms with my sexual orientation as an adolescent and young adult, and then again when I learned I was HIV-positive. I have used those very words.

Many of the things Dr. Fawcett describes are applicable to gay men more generally, and not just to those who are recovering from a meth addiction. Any gay man reading this book is likely to find something useful here. Indeed, I would go so far as to say that those who have never had to deal with meth addiction *in particular* should read this text. While meth use is rampant, I believe the majority of gay men are not users or addicts, and therefore there is a stigma associated with those who use crystal meth. I would hope that such readers would find greater understanding and greater compassion for meth addicts and recovering meth addicts after reading Dr. Fawcett's book. In the final chapter Dr. Fawcett lists "Seven Essential Tools for a Strong Recovery." I would go further: that chapter should have been titled "Seven Essential Tools for Living a Happy Life." *Any* reader could benefit from that chapter, with its elements of positive psychology.

I have only one quibble, and it's an obscure one. Dr. Fawcett describes Mindfulness Based Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy as the third wave of this therapeutic modality that began with Skinner and continued with the work of Ellis and Beck. Without taking anything away from MBCBT -- and it is a powerful therapy -- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) has staked a claim as the third wave. I view MBCBT as enhanced CBT, having borrowed mindfulness which is a core element of ACT. I think ACT is an outstanding therapy, and I can see how it can be applied in dealing with substance abuse issues. I'll admit that I'm partial to ACT, so I'm going to insist that it rather than MBCBT is the "third wave." Sorry, Dr. Fawcett. ;-)
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5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent resource for understanding and combatting meth addiction! 2 October 2015
By John Chaffin, EdD, LMHC, ACHT - Published on
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Dr. David Fawcett has authored a powerful commentary on methamphetamine dependence and addiction within the community of gay men. He explains with compelling clarity the complexities of how meth hijacks the human brain's pleasure centers. He highlights the insidious nature of meth's hold and spread intrapersonally and across the community, its seemingly inextricable intertwining with sexual behavior, the considerable challenges and difficulties of getting - and staying - clean and sober, and the ways in which gay men may be particularly vulnerable to meth's dangerous seduction. Throughout this book, Dr. Fawcett offers hope - through addiction recovery, therapeutic interventions, and other opportunities for growth and healing, and freedom from meth.

This is an excellent resource for anyone seeking an empowering understanding of methamphetamine as well as solutions and remedies to its ravaging effects. I recommend this book highly!
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5.0 out of 5 stars Thank you David Fawcett for such a beautifully written book on such a critical issue. 2 October 2015
By Kris Drumm - Published on
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I like how this powerful book that sheds light on complex and critical issue. The book is written comprehensively, and with obvious care, and an organic flow of ideas and information about the dynamics of addiction, eroticism and the brain's wiring - and how to overcome and heal from such powerful and dangerous forces. The information on healing from addiction and shame is clear and useful, with information that can benefit everyone on a healing path. I am already sharing passages from this section of the book with my clients, gay and straight. I highly recommend this book to clinicians and those who struggle with addiction.
5.0 out of 5 stars Spot on! 1 September 2016
By Richard B. Eggleston - Published on
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This author is spot on in his description, and evaluation of the issues surrounding gay men, sex, and meth and other drugs. I've had to learn a lot about myself, but there were many gaps, and unanswered questions. David has filled in many of the gaps, shedding light on things I knew, but didn't fully grasp. I would recommend that everyone dealing with their own issues, or those of someone else, read this book - it will answer many questions.
4.0 out of 5 stars Good information, too graphic for an addict (may trigger) 23 June 2017
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The information provided is good, the stories can be too graphic for an addict to relate to. It may cause a person to trigger cravings. It can get a little scientific at times.