You don't need to own a Kindle device to enjoy Kindle books. Download one of our FREE Kindle apps to start reading Kindle books on all your devices.

  • Apple
  • Android
  • Windows Phone
  • Android

To get the free app, enter your mobile phone number.

Digital List Price: $14.53
Kindle Price: $8.42

Save $6.11 (42%)

includes tax, if applicable

These promotions will be applied to this item:

Some promotions may be combined; others are not eligible to be combined with other offers. For details, please see the Terms & Conditions associated with these promotions.

Deliver to your Kindle or other device

Deliver to your Kindle or other device

Love in the Time of Contempt: Consolations for Parents of Teenagers by [Fedler, Joanne]
Kindle App Ad

Love in the Time of Contempt: Consolations for Parents of Teenagers Kindle Edition

5.0 out of 5 stars 17 customer reviews

See all formats and editions Hide other formats and editions
Amazon Price
New from Used from
Kindle Edition, 28 Jan 2015
"Please retry"

Length: 273 pages Word Wise: Enabled Enhanced Typesetting: Enabled
Page Flip: Enabled Language: English

Save up to 70% on Kindle Books. Sale ends 30 June 2017 at 11:59 pm AEST. Shop now

Product description

Product Description

In Love in the Time of Contempt Joanne Fedler won’t tell you how to be the ‘perfect’ parent. She’s not a psychologist or an academic. But she is the mother of two teenagers, and she knows how it feels to be the parent of someone sprouting hair, tits and attitude all over the place.

This is a gritty, hilarious look at the day-to-day interactions with teenagers, and the tussled, frazzled and complex business of remaining mature while supporting someone to become an adult.

Fedler shares her philosophy that we are meant to parent imperfectly – our mistakes are the start of the important conversations we need to have with our kids. She guides us through enduring intermittent bouts of contempt and not taking it personally, picking the fights that are worth having, and surviving the journey from frustration, to confusion, to elation and back again.

Love in the Time of Contempt is a funny, poignant account of the dramas and delights of parenting people who know it all, who don’t yet have a fully functioning brain and who desperately need us to parent them – just not in the way we’re used to.

‘With perhaps the most apt title of any work about teens ever written, this book beautifully elucidates the challenges, heartbreak and hysteria of losing our babies and enduring their awkward metamorphosis to adulthood. I found myself nodding, laughing, wincing, and wondering how the hell Jo smuggled the hidden cameras into my home.’ Kerri Sackville

‘Extremely insightful, honest and engaging…an outstanding overview of how to understand the world of the teenager today.’Dani Klein, Psychologist

Product details

  • Format: Kindle Edition
  • File Size: 793 KB
  • Print Length: 273 pages
  • Publisher: Hardie Grant Books (2 February 2015)
  • Sold by: Amazon Australia Services, Inc.
  • Language: English
  • Text-to-Speech: Enabled
  • X-Ray:
  • Word Wise: Enabled
  • Screen Reader: Supported
  • Enhanced Typesetting: Enabled
  • Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars 17 customer reviews
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: #150,825 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)

What other items do customers buy after viewing this item?

click to open popover

Customer Reviews

5.0 out of 5 stars
5 star
4 star
3 star
2 star
1 star
See all 17 customer reviews
Share your thoughts with other customers

Top Customer Reviews

Format: Kindle Edition
Joanne Fedler's brilliant new book, Love in the Time of Contempt, is a must-read for every parent. Whilst there is already plenty of information available on the subject of raising children, until now, no-one has prepared us for the very sudden and tricky transition into raising teens. Prior to reading Love in the Time of Contempt, many daily teenage situations were making me feel uneasy (at best), sometimes downright panicked, and generally quite lost. Now most of these incidents make me laugh (inwardly, of course). Thanks to Joanne, I understand that tumultuous is normal, along with "imbecility" (what a great word). I'm looking forward to connecting with all the other parents of teenagers out there, so that together we can help our teens become happy, well-rounded adults.

In the words of Joanne:
"We can't stop them from suffering but we can be there for them when they suffer. That's all, really."
"Enduring suffering builds resilience. That's their lesson. Watching them suffer builds resilience. That's ours."

Thank you Jo, from the bottom of my heart.
One person found this helpful. Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
Report abuse
Format: Kindle Edition
Love in the time of Contempt isn’t a book you read just once. This jewel is like a ‘good friend’ you can turn to when the going gets tough (and I can imagine it will as my oldest turns 13 next month!).
It’s the friend that makes you smile, with a wicked sense of humour, and a wise older sister wrapped up with a big bow.
Joanne Fedler gently gives us permission to be ok that we might only get it right some of the time. Being part of Joanne’s journey of well intentioned, if not somewhat helicopter parents gives me the big picture I need to get started in my ‘parent of a teenager’ journey.
It is reassuring to be a part of Joanne’s tribe. It gives me comfort and peace of mind as I am about to embark on perhaps some of the scariest moments of my life. Thank goodness I have my good friend to keep me company while I am waiting for the key to unlock the door and my teenager enter the house after a night out. I am sure I will read this over and over again.
Thank you Joanne for creating a sense of community and providing us with your insightful and witty stories
One person found this helpful. Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
Report abuse
Format: Kindle Edition
When people question about how I coped with triplets plus one 15 months later I feel compelled to overshare how I'm finding it harder to cope with now. I didn't know anything different from sometimes 24 bottles in 24 hours and I was organised, had help and loved almost every minute of it. During the more trying phases I had learnt about the concept of the 'good- enough mother' which I reminded myself over and over that I was.
Now with 3 x 13 year olds and a 12 year old, little I do seems good enough.

Enter Joanne Fedler's "Love in the Time of Contempt". As always her writing is brilliant, her humour and honesty make even this time of hormones seem less heinous. I laughed out loud and cried through the first few chapters which I read in one sitting, partly because it was describing my life with teenagers so accurately but mostly because I felt that the sense of loss I was feeling was being acknowledged.

The book reinforced for me that while witnessing the metamorphosis of our children into adults is for us the parents a necessary loss in some sense, it also presents a challenge and opportunity to both us and our children to give up outdated forms of interaction and to adopt a new system of coexistence.

While Joanne claims that this isn't a how to book, for me just this awareness is helping me to look at things in a different way and consequently to do things slightly differently. And I'll need to if we're all going to survive the next few years.

As an aside, for me personally it was also nice to read a book which I didn't have to adapt to my particular domestic circumstances which don't always mirror the "what to expect" books.
One person found this helpful. Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
Report abuse
Format: Kindle Edition
Review : Love in the Time of Contempt Consolations for Parents of Teenagers : Joanne Fedler

Yvonne Coburn 26 January 2015

This book by Joanne Fedler is beautifully written and ground breaking.. it is brutally honest ,exhaustively researched and explores the myriad issues that parents face in their daily lives with teenagers.

Joanne provides a wealth of anecdotal evidence, supplemented with research from interviews with many parents about this important topic. She succeeds in opening up cathartic dialogues and offers guidelines to help understand the complexity of young adolescents.

No brief summary can do justice to the intelligence and moral complexity of this book. I picked it up without expectation. I read it with gathering intensity, and a swelling admiration. I finished it, and straightaway started to read it again. It is unusual, original, and utterly compelling.

Joanne's style laced with gentle humour, is as mesmerizing as are her characters. Her dexterous, self-ironizing distance (the autobiographical elements are obvious),the detached gestures with which the narrator interrupts herself, the muted fury that erupts in sentences, and a certain moral seriousness and ethical anguish also impregnate this gem of a book. It is a valuable document of vital relationships and illuminates the important things in life.

This melting pot of a book is handled with style and an easy familiarity. There is a great deal here to move anyone who has watched or felt the sufferings of age and parenthood.

This book is one womans gift to the world and its heartfelt honesty reaches straight to the heart.

From my heart to yours Joanne thank you.
One person found this helpful. Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
Report abuse

Most Recent Customer Reviews

Look for similar items by category