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Letters to a Perfectionist: On Shame, Fear, Love, and the Surprising Spiritual Nature of Perfectionism by [Frizzell, Tad]
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Is perfectionism, and the shame of never being or doing enough, running your life? Are you beating yourself up for being less than perfect?

It’s time to take our understanding of perfectionism to an entirely new level. That’s what Letters to a Perfectionist: On Shame, Fear, Love, and the Surprising Spiritual Nature of Perfectionism is all about.

Author Tad Frizzell took the perfectionistic tendencies which began to drive him in the early years of childhood and applied them to every aspect of his life. He didn’t realize how much it would cost him. The crisis of burnout which ensued after 16 years in a monastery driving himself to this elusive perfection raised the stakes to the level of life or death. This book is a product of one man’s deep exploration of the self, and what it means to refuse to love and accept yourself in a state of imperfection.

There’s a revolution happening in the understanding of perfectionism. At its worst, it’s not just a way of thinking or a way of achieving more. It’s a way of being in the world. Perfectionism is a spiritual problem which transcends religious creeds and culture. The refusal to love and accept oneself in a state of imperfection can lead a person into depression, anxiety, obsessive and compulsive behavior, eating disorders, self-harm, and substance abuse. It can even lead to suicide.

The statistics don’t lie. Perfectionism is an epidemic. Recent studies show that 3 out of every 10 school-age children exhibit unhealthy perfectionistic tendencies. Textbooks are being revised and a number of long-time researchers in the psychology community are calling out for a greater recognition of the problem of perfectionism as a root cause for a cocktail of psychiatric problems.

Letters to a Perfectionist is a collection of 22 letters which exposes the roots of perfectionism and the way it manifests in our lives and relationships. The author writes from his own experience, and raises questions about perfectionism you won’t find other people asking. From the first letter to the last, Tad Frizzell takes the reader on a journey of self-discovery. The final destination is a place of unconditional love and gratitude. Tad Frizzell’s book makes the reader feel cherished, while giving a clear path to self understanding. There’s never been a book quite like this before.

In this book you will learn:
  • Why perfectionism is best viewed as a spiritual problem
  • The pervasive nature of perfectionism
  • The neuroscience behind the perfectionist’s thoughts and emotions
  • The impact of perfectionism on our relationships
  • What motivates perfectionists
  • How perfectionism can cause a crisis of identity
  • About the need for security and the strategy of control
  • The dangers of spiritual perfectionism
  • How a perfectionist eventually “burns out”
  • How we can choose to transform the burnout from darkness into light
  • The power of observation and self-empathy
  • What a new way of being looks like
  • The power of connecting the mind and the heart
  • How to transform self-hatred into self-compassion
  • The beauty of a life marked by forgiveness, love, and gratitude
  • The surprising treasures hidden inside the perfectionist…and how to uncover them

Are you concerned that you are suffering from perfectionism, that refusal to love and accept yourself in a state of imperfection? Do you see someone you love suffering, believing they will never measure up to the unrealistic expectations they have set or adopted for themselves? Then you need to understand the problem.

Don’t wait until it’s too late! Buy Letters to a Perfectionist and begin your journey from perfectionistic pain to healing and wholeness today.

About the Author

Tad Frizzell is the author of the Amazon bestseller Letters to a Perfectionist. His writing is inspired by a life filled with mountains, monasteries, and travels through strange lands, including the wilderness of the human heart. Born in Abilene, Texas, he earned a degree in Geological Sciences from the University of Colorado at Boulder. His deep interest in spiritual life led him to an Orthodox Christian monastery where he lived for 16 years and eventually served as the deputy abbot. After leaving the monastery he began writing as a way of reflecting on and interpreting all of his experiences from childhood to middle-age. From a youth filled with adventure sports to years of monastic life to pastoral experience working with people and their spiritual problems, all of these rich experiences inform his poetry and prose. He manages extraordinary music at http: // and writes at http: //

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  • Format: Kindle Edition
  • File Size: 2401 KB
  • Print Length: 126 pages
  • Page Numbers Source ISBN: 0692961194
  • Simultaneous Device Usage: Unlimited
  • Publisher: Lucky Jack Productions LLC (14 September 2017)
  • Sold by: Amazon Australia Services, Inc.
  • Language: English
  • Text-to-Speech: Enabled
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  • Word Wise: Enabled
  • Screen Reader: Supported
  • Enhanced Typesetting: Enabled
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  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: #323,580 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
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4.0 out of 5 starsA definite good read for people struggling with perfectionism…it's time to get UNSTUCK!
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