--Meghan Daum, author of My Misspent Youth "Finally! Someone said it: Being single does not mean you're broken. Thank you, Sara Eckel, for speaking up and turning the tables on anyone who dared point their needling finger at poor old singletons negotiating the process of looking for love. It's Not You is a smart and sane respite from the incessant chatter of relationship self-help that places the single person in the middle of a perpetual makeover project. Eckel deftly argues why you don't need any of it, and she'll make you think about dating in an entirely new light. Her book is fresh, relatable, funny, and empowering, and I'm only one percent mad at her for not writing it sooner. Mostly, I just want to hug her and so will you."
--Rachel Machacek, author of The Science of Single "Debunking the myths and well-meaning advice lobbed onto single women today, Sara Eckel's It's Not You is like soothing guidance from a best friend in book form. Fearless, funny, and wise, it's a reminder to single women everywhere that the best antidote to the overwhelmingly negative dating feedback that prevails is self-compassion."
--Ava Chin, "Urban Forager" columnist and author of Eating Wildly
"Sara Eckel has composed an electrically charged response to a world still eager to tie a woman's value to her marital status. It's Not You is a thorough and thoughtful debunking of the myths of blame routinely foisted on women who have not (yet or ever) found mates. Eckel is funny, compassionate, and righteously resistant to the lies women are told about how personal shortcomings have damned them to singlehood, while smartly standing up to assumptions that there's anything wrong with unmarried life to begin with."
--Rebecca Traister, author of Big Girls Don't Cry "It's Not You is a funny, thoughtful, and long-overdue response to every well-intentioned tool who insists single women are single because they're 'too' something: picky, available, desperate, intimidating, nice, negative, attractive, or, I don't know, averse to clog dancing. Instead, she assures us we're fine. The only problem? We simply haven't met the guy of our dreams yet."
--Diane Mapes, author of How to Date in a Post-Dating World "Sara Eckel counters prevailing myths about dating and marriage, and offers solace and very helpful advice to those who feel pained by prolonged singlehood. Above all, this book will resonate with readers because of the way she shares her own struggling, vulnerable heart."
--Gabriel Cohen, author of Storms Can't Hurt the Sky "Part Buddhist teacher and part social critic, Sara Eckel tells single women what we older-to-marry folks wish we could go back to say to our own younger self-doubting unmarried selves.. . . This book is a refreshing study of women realizing the best potential of feminism: to realistically accept both the challenges, and the triumphs, of living life on one's own terms."
--Paula Kamen, author of Her Way, All in My Head, and Finding Iris Chang