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Insecure in Love: How Anxious Attachment Can Make You Feel Jealous, Needy, and Worried and What You Can Do About It Paperback – 5 January 2014
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LESLIE BECKER-PHELPS
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- Publisher : NEW HARBINGER (5 January 2014)
- Language : English
- Paperback : 192 pages
- ISBN-10 : 1608828158
- ISBN-13 : 978-1608828159
- Dimensions : 15.57 x 1.17 x 22.76 cm
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"Drawing on the latest scientific research but written in an entertaining and accessible manner, this book will help you understand why you're insecure in your relationships. It will also help you heal, so that you can have healthier relationships with others, and perhaps more importantly, with yourself."
--Kristin Neff, PhD, author of Self-Compassion and associate professor of human development and culture at the University of Texas
"If you're single, you'll discover how to choose a partner who is truly available for a connected, supportive, nurturing relationship--someone who accepts and loves you for you. If you're in a relationship, you will gain insight into your partner's behavior and motivation and discover how to create a loving connection in which you both feel truly valued and cared for. "Filled with relevant, real-life examples and powerful exercises, Insecure in Love will help you leave your self-criticism and sabotaging behaviors behind and develop true self-compassion. No matter how much you've struggled in the past, you will finally understand how to create happy, healthy relationships and experience true, lasting love."
--Mali Apple and Joe Dunn, authors of The Soulmate Experience: A Practical Guide to Creating Extraordinary Relationships
"Motivated by her professional interest in humans and attachment theory, Dr. Becker-Phelps has developed a solid resource for men and women to improve their lives and their relationships. Insecure in Love is a clear and comprehensive guide for self-understanding and self-compassion in which readers are encouraged to explore themselves and complete step-by-step exercises. The end result will be greater understanding of your relationships and a healthier, more secure self!"
--Kathryn Cortese, MSW, LCSW, ACSW, co-owner and president of Gürze-Salucore Eating Disorders Resource Catalogue
"It is rare that an author can take such a deep and meaningful subject and present it in a helpful, caring, and hopeful manner. Those who are suffering from anxiety disorders that have undermined past relationships will find her suggestions and exercises easy to understand and potentially very successful."
--Randi Gunther, PhD, author of Relationship Saboteurs
"Insecure in Love is engaging, practical, and comprehensive all at the same time. It takes the latest theories of love and provides a useful roadmap for why couples struggle to maintain closeness. Becker-Phelps gets to the heart of the challenge and describes what individuals need to address about themselves, as well as what couples can work on together, in order to recreate a meaningful connection between two people."
--Daniel Goldberg, PhD, director at the New Jersey Couples Training Program in the Center for Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis of New Jersey
"Insecure in Love provides a step-by-step guide for overcoming the psychological hurdles that prevent so many people from finding and creating lasting and satisfying relationships. Becker-Phelps provides easy-to-use assessment tools and exercises that will help readers identify faulty ways of thinking and behaving, understand their childhood context, increase their self-compassion, and form loving and secure attachments going forward."
--Guy Winch, PhD, author of Emotional First Aid and The Squeaky Wheel
"A wonderfully readable synthesis of attachment theory, mindfulness, and cutting-edge approaches to developing self-awareness. This is illustrated throughout with practical advice and vivid stories told by a wise and caring therapist, who is a recognized expert on cultivating successful relationships."
--Diane Handlin, PhD, founder and executive director of the Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Center, NJ
"I've always been fascinated by attachment theory, which does a wonderful job of explaining how pivotal early events color all of life. Leslie Becker-Phelps helps us understand how 'anxious attachment' plays itself out in our current relationships--and what we do can to heal from that substantial early wound. Highly recommended!"
--Eric Maisel, PhD, author of Rethinking Depression and The Van Gogh Blues
"Leslie Becker-Phelps explains how early attachments can create obstacles to healthy and secure connections in adult romantic relationships. Insecure in Love provides the self-knowledge and the tools necessary to overcome these obstacles and get you closer to feeling secure, happy, and loved in your relationships. Highly recommended for anyone who feels anxious and insecure in a relationship."
--Michelle Skeen, PsyD, author of The Critical Partner and host of Relationships 2.0 on KCAA 1050-AM
"This is a wonderfully user-friendly handbook on healthy relating, both with others and with ourselves. Leslie Becker-Phelps mentors us in such a clear--and encouraging--way. She shows us how we can open ourselves to others while tending our own boundaries so that real love can happen."
--David Richo, author of How to Be an Adult in Love
About the Author
Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD, is a psychologist who treats adults in both individual and couple therapy. She writes the blog Making Change for Psychology Today, and previously served at Somerset Medical Center in Somerville, NJ as director of women's psychological services and chief of psychology in the department of psychiatry. She lives with her husband and two sons in Basking Ridge, NJ. Find out more about her at www.drbecker-phelps.com.
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Although some of these concepts were familiar to me Leslie Becker-Phelps writes in a clear, concise way which helped the ideas sink deeper. If you're inclined to attach quickly and struggle with feelings of low self-worth, jealousy and insecurity this is a must read.
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So crap I couldn't even finish it. Regretful purchase.
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Soulssupport
5.0 out of 5 stars
Finally.... The Problem Brought To Light, With A Solution
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 10 December 2018Verified Purchase
This is possibly, the most nicely written book you will ever find, when suffering with anxiety, jealousy, and fear in a relationship. Dr Becker-Phelps writes as if she is writing directly to you, and she becomes a friend in those pages. Not only that, she makes you feel loved and accepted for who you are, and do not need to feel ashamed.
I came to this book, as i love the woman of my life so much, and could see how my thoughts and actions were hurting us both, and although there is work still to do, this book gave me the roadmap to achieving a healthy and loving relationship of peace and joy. We both already felt it as i was working through the book.
I was able to admit all my mistakes, discuss my fears more clearly, and begin to build a wonderful new atmosphere between us.
Anyone with anxiety in a relationship, you cannot leave this page without ordering this book.
I wish i could thank Dr Becker-Phelps in person. She has given me the words to change my whole world, and that of my partner. This review is not even enough to show my true feelings. The biggest blessing on paper.
I came to this book, as i love the woman of my life so much, and could see how my thoughts and actions were hurting us both, and although there is work still to do, this book gave me the roadmap to achieving a healthy and loving relationship of peace and joy. We both already felt it as i was working through the book.
I was able to admit all my mistakes, discuss my fears more clearly, and begin to build a wonderful new atmosphere between us.
Anyone with anxiety in a relationship, you cannot leave this page without ordering this book.
I wish i could thank Dr Becker-Phelps in person. She has given me the words to change my whole world, and that of my partner. This review is not even enough to show my true feelings. The biggest blessing on paper.
20 people found this helpful
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Bbear
3.0 out of 5 stars
Very basic
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 22 April 2019Verified Purchase
The book has mostly very basic information and would be all right for someone who wants an introduction to the subject and has not read much on adult attachment. I had already read the book ‘Attached’ by Heller and Levine and I felt this book covered much of the same ground with some recommendations on how to deal with anxiety, so I felt I did not gain much further insight.
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Kate
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Enlightening
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 26 January 2017Verified Purchase
As a BPD sufferer I found this book enlightening.I recognised my own responsibility in the breakdown of relationships and how to go on and manage my attachment style and insecurity in the future. I hope this knowledge will assist me in relationships in the future.
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Peace
1.0 out of 5 stars
Not worth it... 🙏
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 4 June 2019Verified Purchase
The most boring read... Couldn't get engaged in any of its uninteresting waffle
Absolutely waste of time and money.... I returned this.
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UTUBE has far more about recovering from narcisstic abuse to help people with Anxieties... And pre occupied attachment styles formed in childhood... I'd recommend going there for YOUR EMPOWERMENT AND KNOWLEDGE...
Absolutely waste of time and money.... I returned this.
U tu
UTUBE has far more about recovering from narcisstic abuse to help people with Anxieties... And pre occupied attachment styles formed in childhood... I'd recommend going there for YOUR EMPOWERMENT AND KNOWLEDGE...
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Alextheseaotter
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Great source book for change and nurturing
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 5 November 2018Verified Purchase
A great resource of knowledge and wisdom easily digested and highly useful both personally and with the people you care about.
It takes what I know and understand about myself and relationships to a higher state of awareness and usefulness.
It takes what I know and understand about myself and relationships to a higher state of awareness and usefulness.
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