"Beautifully written, deeply researched, this is the one book we all need to read if we want to instil the next generation with confidence and joy." Susan Cain, author of Quiet. "Essential reading for anyone who wants to guide children towards lives of independence, creativity and courage." - Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project. "Instead of lecturing us about what we're doing wrong, Jessica Lahey reveals what she did wrong with her own children and students - and how she systematically reformed her ways. A refreshing, practical book for parents who want to raise resilient kids but aren't sure where to start." - Amanda Ripley, author of The Smartest Kids in the World.
We are the generation that invented over-parenting. For all our best intentions to protect our children from tripping up - rushing to school to deliver forgotten lunches, or correcting their homework to ensure they gain top marks - we are in danger of depriving them of the most important lessons of childhood.
As Jessica Lahey demonstrates, disappointments, rejections and criticism are actually opportunities in disguise. Again and again, the students from her classes who have gone on to become the happiest and most successful adults are the ones who were allowed to suffer the consequences of their mistakes.In this fascinating book, packed with case studies and practical advice, Lahey proposes a gentle but vital shift in the way we parent. She urges us to step back and trust our children, and allow them to experience the joy of succeeding on their terms rather than ours.