As a female couple planning to try to conceive in the near future, this was super helpful. Honestly, this is probably a super useful tool for anyone planning to use someone else's sperm to conceive, although you will have to deal with the authors' assumptions that everyone reading the book is a lesbian. While a little bit of the information was out-dated (a bit of the info on sperm banks and such), generally speaking, I loved the book. I found them to be very thorough (to the point that I used it more like a reference book than a straight-through read because we didn't need all of the chapters). I'd definitely rather they were thorough than that they missed things, though!
The information regarding interacting with sperm banks was helpful. Probably most helpful was the detailed information about tracking your fertility cycle. As someone who has sometimes struggled to wrap my head around timing and what all the different indicators mean, this was comprehensive and clear and laid out well so that I could go back and re-read things as needed. I will say that they got a little "woowoo" for a bit in there (even more than I am, which is saying something) while they discuss tracking the phases of the moon for your cycle. Although that may be relevant for people, it certainly isn't for me. Still, they list a million different ways for you to track your cycle-- and not just list-- they walk you through how to do it. They also discuss common errors in tracking and how to regulate them.
I loved how they addressed creating a life where you want your baby to live. Even as someone who has over thought this a million times, the information was useful. The writing was very empowering, although perhaps not for you if you are do or die by the medical establishment. (They are midwives and encourage you to do a lot of things on your own that others might refer you to a doctor for-- like potentially inseminating, although they have lots of information for both self-inseminating or inseminating at a clinic.)
Most of what I loved about this book is that it was everything you need all in one place. What probably went above and beyond any information I could have found anywhere was the information about the emotional impact. It discussed the different emotional struggles involved in trying to conceive in general and as a same-sex couple. They talk about the typical patterns of emotions involved in a fertility cycle, the difficulties that will come up in making changes in your life to prepare for a baby, etc. It wasn't just beginner's information either-- my wife and I are both therapists and found it helpful.
TL;DR I would recommend this book for anyone using someone else's sperm to conceive, although it is of course important to weigh everything any source says against your own experience.
- Paperback: 450 pages
- Publisher: Alyson Pubns (1 February 2002)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 1555836267
- ISBN-13: 978-1555836269
- Product Dimensions: 15.2 x 2.5 x 22.2 cm
- Boxed-product Weight: 680 g
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