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Cupid's Poisoned Arrow: From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships by [Marnia Robinson, Douglas Wile Ph.D.]

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"[This book] seriously challenges conventional 'wisdom' about human sexual interactions. It is as antithetical to modern cultural beliefs about sexual behavior as Galileo's treatise was to astronomy. In Galileo's time the earth (like the orgasm) was thought to be the incontestable center of the universe. Marnia Robinson's hypothesis might result in much needed navigational improvements for modern family relationships."
--A.J. Reid Finlayson, MD, Division of Addiction Medicine, Department of Psychiatry, Vanderbilt University School of Medicine

"Marnia Robinson brings neuroscience into the bedroom, revealing how biology creates projection and separation. She provides a solution that will not only pleasantly surprise you, but will profoundly change your life. This is a must-read for anyone wanting to know love."
--Kali Wendorf, founder of Australia's Kindred magazine and contributing editor of the anthology Belonging

"I can honestly say that I have never read a more accessible and well laid out description of the brain's reward circuitry. Combine that with the experiential, practical, and spiritual dimensions of Cupid's Poisoned Arrow, and it is virtually impossible to walk away from it without the feeling that Marnia Robinson really is on to something significant in the field of human relationships and sexual behavior."
--Russell Razzaque, MD, psychiatrist, London, England

"Cupid's Poisoned Arrow is a skillful blend of understandable science, informative personal reports and light-hearted humor, which make for enjoyable, thought-provoking reading. Between its chapters, curious readers will also find intriguing essays about various traditions (Taoism, Christianity, Buddhism, cortezia, karezza, etc.). These reveal little known, and often remarkable, clues about the hidden potential that lies in our sexual relationships."

"In Cupid's Poisoned Arrow: From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships, author Marnia Robinson explains how neuroscience can help us understand and change our relationships. Robinson challenges often-held assumptions about the role of sexuality in an accessible way, including personal experiences, science, and insights from around the world."

"Cupid's Poisoned Arrow blends personal experiences with the latest neuroscience and various cultural insights to build a survey of popular notions about human sexual interactions and their realities, blending history with cultural and social observation."
--Midwest Book Review --This text refers to an alternate kindle_edition edition.

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Marnia Robinson is a former corporate lawyer who left her career to investigate how ancient sacred-sex prescriptions can heal widespread disharmony in intimate relationships. She and her husband, Gary Wilson, have given presentations on the subject worldwide and run a Web site called Reuniting- Healing with Sexual Relationships. She lives in Ashland, OR. --This text refers to an alternate kindle_edition edition.

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  • ASIN ‏ : ‎ B003WUYP9M
  • Publisher ‏ : ‎ North Atlantic Books (31 August 2010)
  • Language ‏ : ‎ English
  • File size ‏ : ‎ 2706 KB
  • Text-to-Speech ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Screen Reader ‏ : ‎ Supported
  • Enhanced typesetting ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • X-Ray ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Word Wise ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Print length ‏ : ‎ 417 pages
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Marnia Robinson is the author of "Cupid's Poisoned Arrow: From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships" (in German "Das Gift an Amors Pfeil"). As a former corporate lawyer (with degrees from Brown and Yale), she never expected to find herself writing books about sex. She delved into the subject in part because she was a bride or bridesmaid in four weddings and just about everyone who reached the altar (including Marnia) has since divorced and remarried. What was going on?

The more she learned about both ancient sacred sex traditions and the science of mating and bonding, the more she recognized the need for a cross-disciplinary perspective that also incorporates the experiences of actual lovers struggling with the tension between fiery biological urges and the desire for long-term harmonious relationships. Psychologists, neuroscientists, evolutionary biologists, anthropologists and ancient sages all have essential clues for coping with this challenge--and yet each profession alone is somewhat hampered by its official constraints. Marnia's goal is to highlight key insights (both recent and long-forgotten) and then weave them together with practical suggestions, in hopes of encouraging a wider dialogue.

Her husband Gary Wilson, a neuroscience enthusiast, generously takes time from his teaching career to help her collect and analyze the material in her posts and books. He also hosts the porn recovery website Together Gary and Marnia blog on "Psychology Today" ( Their article "The Great Porn Experiment" appeared in "The Evolutionary Review." You can watch Gary's popular TEDxGlasgow talk of the same name here: They reside in Ashland, Oregon.

Watch Marnia on San Francisco's "The View from the Bay" show ( (6 mins.)

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