This is a book on Chinese culture written for the purpose of improving the Sino-American relationship and creating a general understanding of the Chinese perspective. As the author wrote this book she reflected on personal stories that demonstrated the cultural conflicts she experienced as she learned to adapt to life as a transplanted mango. Events that occurred with her family and friends are shared as examples of interpersonal and cultural conflicts. When she uses the word conflict, it is defined as a difference of perspective, opinion or viewpoint. Remember that the essence of this book is to simply create a better understanding of the humanities that come into play when a member of one culture is cross pollinated into another.
The stories in this book range from the unique ethic code of Chinese friendship to the philosophy of Golden Mean, from misunderstood ‘uncivilized’ Chinese habits to the alcohol culture at extravagant Chinese feasts, and from the Confucius definition of ‘gentleman’ to the body language lost in translation. Through the stories, this book explains in an educational and entertaining way how cultural conflicts arise in the area of interpersonal communication and how to solve them.
The book offers you the opportunity to learn about a China that many books don’t talk about and many Americans don’t clearly understand. After reading the book, you will understand more on these questions: Why is the Chinese civilization being the only one to survive of the Four Great Ancient Civilizations? Why are young Chinese people currently thinking China is undergoing a gigantic change for the recent forty years? Has this gigantic change been more prevalent than in the western society over the past four hundred years? Why would the Chinese painter simply put one or two clouds behind the fairy to make her fly instead of adding a pair of wings on her back by the American painter? When you walk into a Chinese antique shop, why will you always find that the most amazing stuff is placed at the innermost corner of the shop? How can you tell the Chinese from the Japanese and the Koreans on the street? This is a book of details on China, instead of concepts.