This collection comprises over two years of my writing for a support site I started years after I had finally ended my marriage. I promised myself at the time that I would keep the writing raw, so that others having the same experiences could feel that I was able to truly understand them, for so few people do.
I have designed this to be read as a situational resource. In other words, whatever you are facing in the moment can probably be addressed by one of the specific sections. Each essay has information that takes time to internalize, so a little at a time is best. This also means you can re-read each entry multiple times to get the most out of it, when you really need it. If you do it right, recovery from abuse is a special kind of grieving process. You have to get through the grief to find your strength and give the abuser a giant middle finger.